Take life as a totality

We live in a world that constantly teaches us to divide — to judge moments, measure progress, and label everything as good or bad, success or failure. In doing so, we unknowingly reduce life to isolated fragments. But the more we break life into parts, the more we lose sight of its wholeness.

What if we stopped chasing perfection in one area and instead embraced the totality of life — not as a set of goals to achieve, but as an unfolding experience to be lived?

To live in totality is not about being perfect. It’s about being present. It means allowing both joy and sorrow, clarity and confusion, to coexist without resistance. When we stop insisting that life must be only pleasant, only successful, only predictable — we begin to experience a deeper peace: the peace of acceptance.

From early on, we are conditioned to value certain outcomes — high marks, promotions, admiration — while being taught to hide failure, silence, or self-doubt. But life does not unfold in straight lines. It flows like a river — twisting, deepening, crashing, softening. To live well is to swim with the current, not freeze at every unexpected wave.

Living in totality isn’t about giving up. It’s a shift in how we engage with the world — not as judges, but as participants. It allows us to meet each moment with openness, whether we are succeeding or struggling, clear or confused. This way of living doesn’t simplify life — it deepens it.

When we begin to see life this way, even the ordinary begins to glow. A so-called failure becomes a teacher. A pause becomes a moment of grace. A breakdown reveals unexpected strength. We begin to value the richness of life not because everything is going “right”, but because we are no longer obsessed with dividing it into right and wrong.

Take a simple example. You are walking through a quiet garden and notice a rose blooming under the morning sun. You smile — not because it belongs to you, but because, in that moment, it feels as though it bloomed just for your joy. When you live in totality, everything belongs to you — not as possession, but as connection. The flower, the breeze, the sky — all feel like part of your own inner world. You are no longer confined to the small radius of “me and mine”. You become part of something vast and vibrant.

Perhaps the greatest shift comes when we stop treating life like a puzzle to be solved. Life isn’t a question demanding answers — it’s a mystery to be lived. In chasing certainty, we often miss the quiet beauty of not knowing. But when we become observers of life in its wholeness, something inside us softens. We begin to witness without judgment, accept without fear, and participate without resistance.

And in that space, something beautiful happens: we stop trying to control every outcome and begin to live with grace. We realise that nothing is more important than life itself — raw, unpredictable, and alive.

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